Use your power


When we examine our world today, it’s clear that we’re living with some pretty messed up realities.

We live in a world where women are called “sluts,” “bitches,” and “whores.” We live in a world where people are pressured into having sex when they don’t want to. We live in a world where rape is the punchline of many jokes. We live in a world where sexual violence is another tool in hate crimes around sexual orientation, gender identity, or race.

We live in a world where sexual violence is an everyday occurrence.

Why are we okay with this?

Accepting things the way they are is a choice. We have the power to demand better of ourselves and our world.


We have dedicated much of this site to emphasizing that sexual violence is about power and control. Now, we want to discuss a different kind of power: the power we all have to make a positive change regarding sexual violence. So how do we create change, and use our power for good? Check out th

is positive change to-do list:

  • View consent as a positive thing.
  • Discuss these issues with friends and family.
  • Be supportive when people talk about their relationships.
  • Learn about organizations (eg., Hollaback AB) in your own community that are fighting against sexual violence
  • Treat people with respect and equality.
  • Know your own attitudes around gender, healthy sex, and sexual violence and challenge yourself to grow.
  • Learn about what privilege is and how it contributes to sexual violence.
  • Don’t laugh at rape jokes. If you feel comfortable, explain why these are problematic.
  • Check in with your partner.
  • Familiarize yourself with other resources; you are not in this alone.

Consent truly is the root of not only sex, but all positive social interactions. We hope you find this to-do list helpful and join us in our goal to create change with this issue.